Do you know what you want to do after school?
It is a touchy subject for many, as it is connected to high expectations of yourself and of others. Here I want to share some thoughts on the after school blues and how to avoid it, so you can get the best out of your time and skip post-school-anxiety!
1. There is no “one perfect way” after school.
Do you ever feel like that? Influenced by what you see in the media, what your friends say and your parents preach? I was convinced, that there must be this one perfect way that leads to academical success, your parents being proud and you being happy. But whether you wait 0 or 3 years before you start a new educational path, may it be university or job training, this time truly doesn’t have an effect on your happiness or success.
We like to trouble our inner peace by comparing our lives to others. So, your best friend started right after school and is almost done with university? Well, that’s her path – yours is perfectly suited for you. You are an individual, with a different story that is in no way comparable. What if you go traveling, meet this one inspiring person, start an online business together and so on and so on. Still sad you didn’t go to university then? Be calm, trust in yourself and let it happen. School, gap year, uni. School, training, job, gap year. School, gap year, uni, gap year. It’s all perfect, as long as you trust the journey.
2. Inform yourself, so you don’t develop anxiety about your future.
For some reason I thought, that everything will magically fall into place as soon as school is over. That I don’t really need to research opportunities or worry about what to do, because it will all somehow happen. WRONG. Out of nothing.. grows nothing. So suddenly there was this big hole after school, this free time that I looked so much forward to suddenly scared me and I didn’t know how to make use of it wisely.
This is why I advice you to collect all sorts of ideas what to do after school. Get organized! Make a plan beforehand where to travel to, if you want to travel. Which jobs to apply to or which universities could be right for you. Just be prepared that there suddenly will be a lot of time on your hands and its good to decide for yourself how to make use of it beforehand.
3. You must try (and fail). Start somewhere, even if it isn’t perfect.
Whatever crazy plan it is – do it. Don’t wait. Risk it. And even if this job training doesn’t seem like your perfect fit, do it anyways. That way you find out about your strengths, your likes and your dislikes. Also, it’s never truly about feeling ready. We never feel good enough, skilled enough or truly ready to take on something that is important to us, until we just do it.
So you tried this university course, spent a lot of money on it and now notice it’s totally not your thing? Be honest to yourself, admit it and quit. This is how you learn about yourself, by trying things, drawing your conclusions from that experience and moving on.
4. Take your dreams seriously.
The worst mistake you could make is being convinced, that you have a lot of time (before it’s getting serious). I’m sorry to be a party pooper here, but you actually don’t. I see a lot of teenagers spending their afternoons on Netflix, instead of writing this song that they keep talking about or joining ballet class. Why? Because taking on your dreams is scary, it is tiring and it takes ambition. In 5 years from now you will wish you had actually started ballet class, because you’d be frickin awesome now and this silly song would have grown into a whole album.
Just see how little investions now can pay of hugely later. Don’t dream of becoming a writer and postpone to write, because ‘you got time’, but take your dreams seriously and work on them. It will make you happier than an episode of Game of Thrones, I promise 😉
5. It’s all gonna be okay. And it is gonna work out, either way.
Whatever way you decide for – going to university, going traveling, becoming a yoga teacher – love it, live it or leave it. Be clear about your decisions but don’t panic.
When I was traveling I would always worry about getting into university, which tainted the time that could have been free of worries. I did get in, but if I hadn’t, I would have found something else to love and to do. I just didn’t know that then. It’s all going to be okay, it never follows a flawless line – that truly is life. One door closes, another door opens – it never goes according to plan. Know that and make peace with it.
Truly trust your journey.
These are my top tips, that I wish I had known before I left school. I was deeply insecure, but making all these experiences I listed above, I turned into a stronger girl. If you ever feel insecure about your decisions on what to do after school, I would love to help 🙂 Don’t hesitate to drop me an email and ask for advice. I got you <3
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